Have Premarital Sex
If your spouse is your first and only lover, this will create an incredibly strong physical, emotional, and spiritual bond between the two of you. You simply don’t need this if you are going to sabotage your marriage. It’s much better if you engage in premarital sex. This way your spouse will not be your “first” and you can bring plenty of emotional baggage to your marriage bed. If you are lucky, you may even bring some physical complications as well. An STD, for example, could ruin your spouse’s health as well as your own. It wouldn’t have to be one of those big scary STD’s: something as simple as HPV would do. This would give you (or your wife if you are a man) cervical cancer.
Become a Player
If you are going to wreck your marriage, you need to develop some serious character flaws. Two-timing is a good place to start. Cheating, after all, is exciting and gratifying business. Trying to remember all of your lies will keep you on the edge—much more exhilarating than a boring, stable, monogamous relationship. Lying and manipulating will become second nature to you. It’s especially helpful if you can convince yourself that the “right person” will cause you to settle down and be faithful (much easier to blame your player ways on other people). You may believe that a wedding ceremony and a ring will magically change your character. Don’t worry: the habits that you develop will eventually come back. Before you know it, you’ll elevate your status from player to adulterer.
Get Some Vices
A healthy marriage requires two healthy people. There’s a way to make sure you are not emotionally or physically healthy: vices. Smoking cigarettes, for example, will ensure that you have some major health problems. You’ll burden your family with some major medical bills and may send yourself to an early grave. Men, there’s also a good chance that cigarettes will make you impotent—which will obviously cause problems. Alcohol or drug abuse can wreck a family even faster than your nicotine addiction. Porn use/addiction, while not causing physical diseases, can negatively affect intimacy between you and your spouse. Almost any vice will do if practiced regularly.
Be Financially Undisciplined
Money is one of the major causes of conflict within a marriage. You can make sure that there are many problems by mismanaging your finances. Buy whatever you want, regardless of whether or not you can afford it. Borrow money and get yourself in debt. Live beyond your means. Whatever you do, don’t save any money. You don’t want extra money set aside for any of those inevitable expenses of family life. Instead, just borrow more money and deepen your debt as a couple.
Last but not least, choose a partner who is practicing these four steps.
Together, you can have your own domestic nightmare!
Note:
I’m not saying that committing one of these mistakes means that you are forever doomed to a bad marriage. My point is that all of these behaviors can affect your future. If you are doing any of these things, please reexamine your life and consider the consequences.
* read more from Kevin here.
lol. good tips.
wait for your heart to speak true
Hey,
Glad your wanderings brought you here. =)
- Arwen
Nice way to put it, Kevin. Now, how about waiting literally your entire life waiting for someone who still hasn’t (and may very well not ever) come into your life? What then, have you wasted all your time by doing what’s right? I say yes, you have. Unfortunately, people don’t fear God anymore, only being alone. Sorry this isn’t the correct thing to say, but it is a heck of a lot more realistic.
Anonymous,
I can sympathize with your frustration–I’ve experienced it myself. When you preserve your purity it can be disheartening to feel like no one else is.
Here’s a few things to keep in mind:
Following God’s commandments protects us. It protects our hearts, emotions, and even our very lives.
Having high standards will always limit your selection of available suitors/partners. I’ll take quality over quantity any day.
So, here’s where I stand: waiting and keeping high standards isn’t a waste of my life. Better to be alone that to be with the wrong person.
The most miserable people aren’t the single ones–the most miserable are those in bad marriages. Get stuck in a bad marriage and you’ll truly feel like you’ve wasted the most important aspects of your life.
Kuya Kevin